Tuesday, April 9, 2013

What All In Looks Like

For years, my husband and I have had a running dialogue about my love language or the lack thereof.

Strike it up to mood, fancy, my ENFP personality, etc., but what spoke love to me seemed to change at the drop of a hat. 

So William made it his mission to nail it down, to pin me down to one of the BIG FIVE. And alas, it could not be done. And I honestly believed I did not have one. 

Until tonight. 

William named it. 

Not in a big "TAH-DAH" moment, but in a matter of fact, pass the salt, please way.

Kids played, dogs ran amuck, friends hung out, I cooked supper, and he swept the kitchen. 

And then he said, "I know your love language. Finally gotcha figured out."

Back turned, I grinned to myself thinking, "He's going to say acts of service. Keep trying bud."

"Oh yea?"

"Yep. You just need to know we're in this together."

I turned around.

"Doesn't matter what it is, you need to know we're 100% in it together. Writing, counseling, family, ministry, whatever, you just need to know we're both all in."

And just like that, I fell in love all over again. 

So can I show you what all in looks like?

See that book? That's him all in committed to growing as a husband, father, and minister.

See that mason jar? That's him all in cherishing the legacy he is deliberately passing to our children.

See that shirt? That's him all in wearing new to him/cast off from someone else clothes because his family's needs and wants come first.

See that hurricane candle? That's him all in giving me a candle lit dinner amidst our joyful chaos.

See that red X on his hand? That's him all in fighting for the voiceless not because he wrote on his hand with a sharpie but because he lives it out in tangible ways every day.

See that table he built? That's him all in answering God's call to grow our family through adoption. 

See that mess of toys? That's him all in loving our sons and daughters unconditionally and wholeheartedly because that's how Jesus loves them.

See that gold ring? That's him all in for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until Christ takes us home. 

All in. That's my love language. 

And he speaks it so well.


  1. Oh yeah!!I hope you gave that guy a super-size hug! You two are so blessed!
    (Kay Malan)

    1. Every chance I get, Mrs, Kay!! We are blessed indeed!

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    1. glad you enjoyed it! thanks for stopping by!

  3. I super love this post!

    My one word this year is "All". And it is all about being "All in" for what Jesus has for me. Love that He is speaking it to others as well.

    So glad you are loving your husband like you are.


    1. How cool is that! Thanks for reading!

  4. I remember reading this a while back, but somehow I "stumbled" upon it again tonight and tears are welling up in my eyes. God is so incredibly good. He has given you such a gift of writing and it has definitely touched and impacted my heart. Thanks for sharing.

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